Not too long ago I heard about the death of someone that I knew in passing. We weren’t close by any means but I went to her wedding and her husband’s family were close to mine. She had three young children, the youngest being about 11 months. It eventually surfaced that she ended her life (most likely) due to postpartum depression. As a therapist who has spend hours upon hours talking to people right after a failed suicide attempt or while they are actively having thoughts, my heart just felt so sad. I cant even imagine how overwhelmed and hopeless she might have felt. Maybe feeling guilty that she wasn’t as happy as she thought she should be, or feeling like a failure as a young mother. The stigma around mental health is still so real. This mother told her entire family that she was having thoughts about killing herself and no one took her seriously or did anything. She cried out for help and no one answered. I wish that the the outcome had been different. Depression is treatable and seeing a therapist and psychiatrist could have very well saved her life. When someone tells you that they’re having a hard time and having self harming thoughts believe them and do something about it. Don’t tell them that they’ll be ok and they just need to pray more or push through. Stop being so well-meaning that you give a cliche answer to a problem that really needs professional intervention.

R.I.P. JB

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